The relationship with self is one if the most important relationships that you can have because it literally affects every area of your life. How you feel about yourself is also reflected in the way that you treat others. Think about all of the people that you interact with on a daily basis. Your kids, parents, friends, siblings, classmates, co-workers and even just regular people off of the street all have to interact with you. What type of person are you giving them? I remember years ago driving my kids home after a long and extremely stressful day at work and completely being mentally “checked in” to the office and and completely “checked out” of the present moment. Needless to say, I was not a very pleasant mom on those trips home and it wasn’t until one day my precious little daughter asked me why was I so grumpy? When she asked me that, I remember literally shaking my head as if snapping myself back into the present moment. I asked her what she meant and she told me that she noticed that every day when I pick her and her brother up, that I am in a really bad mood and she didn’t understand why. Of course this just broke my heart because I hadn’t even realized that my bad mood was actually affecting my kids and had I had known that, of course I would have done what I needed to do to not be that way anymore. It was at that moment that I started doing some work on myself and really checking back in with myself. It is so easy to lose sight of who you really are with the busy lives that we live today and so that is why it is absolutely critical that you make sure that your relationship with SELF is where it needs to be so that you can give what you need to those around you which is love, kindness and being completely PRESENT! With that being said, I’d like to share with you 3 super easy ways that you can increase the quality of the relationship that you have with yourself so that your true self is reflected onto others.
Take time for self-care!! Women really have a lot of issues with this because we often have so many people relying on us to get things done and it is easy to forget about ourselves until we just literally fall apart. I know you’ve heard this before, but it is true and very important. You have to take care of yourself so that you are the absolute best version of yourself AND so that you are ABLE to continue to do all that you do.
Clear up all of the crap from your childhood/past that are showing up in your present. All of the pain, heartache and abuse don’t belong in your present and the truth is, all of that stuff is so sneaky that you may not even be aware that it is showing up the way that it is in your life. On the other hand, if you are aware that you have some things that need to be cleaned up in your life that are affecting you in a negative way, then you need to get on that. There are way too many people out here that want to help you for you to still be holding on to that. You will never be able to be truly successful, truly joyful, truly present or truly ALIVE unless you deal with your past. It’s just not going to happen.
Spend time every single day building up your spiritual connection. I’m not just talking about religion here. I’m talking about reconnecting every day with the God/Universe. You can spend time in prayer, in meditation or just sitting quietly by yourself before everyone in your house wakes up. Let the first 15-20 minutes of your day belong to you and God. Not only does this recharge you and help get your day started, but it is during this time that you express the desires of your heart and also get the answers that you need to hear.
So, those are my 3 tips. I hope that they help you like they have helped me. There aren’t always going to be perfect days, but these changes will definitely start to get you the results that you desire.